In order to decide or realize that you are not happy, you will need a couple of facts.
Of course, you cannot just decide that you are not happy simply due to the fact that everyone’s criterion for happiness is different. Currently, in the world there is no written, average criterion or measure of happiness, therefore there is no scale that would help you decide whether you are happy or not.
I am telling you this for a simple reason that worldwide there are many different characters of people, different religions, skin colors, and similar distinctions, however, in general, there are two or three types of characters for happiness, and I classify them as follows:
People who are negative
People who are positive
People who know what they want
After my classification, I have to explain what I imply with the classification itself, so let us start explaining successively.
It is related to the beginning of my text, first of all, I include people who are negative in the category of people who may seem cheerful and positive in everyday life, however, they have a negative mood when it comes to their souls, and unconsciously they perceive any ambiguous situation as negative.
We know that almost every situation in everyday life can be ambiguous, so negative people usually tend to perceive these situations as negative, bad or not good. The happiness criterion of these people is very high, simply because these people always complain, they always consider that something is not right, they choose the worse options and they experience similar situations and behavior.
Although they may not make such an impression, this is simply what they are like. A lot has to be done to make these people happy, usually the family is the one attempting to do something, however, everything will fail unless they help themselves.
The second group of people includes those who are always positive, smiled, always choosing the bright side of things.
Looks good? You are probably saying, these people are great, they always feel good. However, this is not the case all the time.
After all, these people in their everyday lives are cheerful and positive, but often suddenly they become depressed if they are unaware of the criterion of happiness, which as I mentioned, is not a written rule and a scale for that purpose does not exist, rather it simply needs to be assessed.
How do these people become depressed or disappointed?
The world around us can be very cruel, people at work, on the streets, friends and family members can easily disappoint us by failing to meet our expectations.
Of course, this can be intentional or unintentional, and if it is intentional, these people become even more disappointed and may become depressed, and in the long run, they may transfer to category one, people who are negative.
Certainly, there is a very simple remedy for this situation, and it can be easily avoided. Self-awareness is very important, if we are self-aware of what is always going on around us, things will be easier.
We need to be reserved when it comes to people, regardless of how close we are, we need to stop having expectations from people who do not appreciate our time and effort, however in order to perceive this, we do not have to be blindly happy and positive, still we need to estimate and assess.
Let us write a little bit about people who really know what they want.
This category can create the criterion of happiness, these people really know how to evaluate, they are always reserved, they listen carefully, they are active in terms of socialization, however, one can hardly make them angry or overwhelmed.
Sometimes they may seem like people who are not too social, but maybe this is a sign that we did something wrong while communicating with them, so they are too wary of us, and they pay attention to what they tell us and how they will react. And of course, if we are the negative ones, we will definitely understand that, because we will always choose the worse.
People who know what they want tend to spend more time and relax with positive people, so they can show more happiness and good mood, and of course, they are cautious again, but they skilfully hide this and relax, thinking quickly and following each situation.
In addition, below you can read about a few factors that affect your happiness.
You will feel happiness only if you stop waiting and take the best of yourself from the present moment to this moment when you are reading this now, whenever, of course, that is why you are reading this.
And I assure you that the only thing that will make you happy in the long run is if you appreciate your hard work, difficulties, problems, and pain. You will learn the greatest and best life lessons through these experiences.
Be cautious, reserved, and relax with people. Do not foresee bad things, if they are to come, just let them be, you will learn from those situations, but you will be happy by then, they will happen, of course, but do not let them make you unhappy while it lasts.
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